Managing expectation

Yesterday a friend of mine was complaining to me about how frustrated she was about this guy who just can't match up to what was expected of him as a leader or a man.

I can empathize with her frustration. But what kept me thinking was this: Firstly, are we putting too much expectation on a person? Secondly, why should they be obligated to keep to our expectation?

I come to realize that everyone of us have our own expectation we want to meet, and these expectation are different for every individual one of us. So my expectation might not be the same as yours. Maybe for me by doing A, B, and C I can achieve D, but to you, by doing B, C, and A you can achieve D. So no point getting all upset and work up when people don't meet our expectation.

And people are not obligated to follow our expectation. We all have our freedom to choose! God gave us the freedom to choose in life as well. We don't have the right to ask someone else to follow what we do. But one thing we can do is to show them by our lifestyle. The way you lead your life produces good result. When people see the fruit of your labour, they might follow.

So the next time when you meet some one and they don't meet your expectation, don't get frustrated. They have a different expectation from yours and they are not obligated to meet up to your expectation. Let your lifestyle show them what is right! ;)